Is it An Exercise of Freedom in Your HOA Living? Or Simply Self-Indulgence?

Is it An Exercise of Freedom? Or Simply Self-Indulgence?

The 4th of July will be here soon. That is a significant date – resounding in “Freedom”. We live in a free country. Our home is our castle. Right? Believe it or not, I have written a book about that – and it is available on my website at It is called “Finding the Key to Your Castle. But don’t expect to find it a ticket to self-indulgence. It is all about the balance to be gained in the exercise of freedom with regard to reasonable behavior in densely populated communities like homeowner associations. I’ve spoken of this before. If you live in a cabin in the hills of Montana set on 100 acres you have a lot more freedom than if you choose instead to live in a homeowners association in San Francisco or L.A., or any other municipality. There are layers of regulations that attach as you move from unincorporated areas to counties, to cities, and to regulated housing like HOAs. And anyone who rebels at that concept can make themselves and their neighbors, and their HOA boards, crazy.

 Freedom doesn’t mean that we as Americans are entitled to do whatever we want to do. It is not an invitation to self-indulge at the expense of others, or just because we can.

People have tried to explain this as far back as the Bible where Paul said:

 You, my brothers and sisters, were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the flesh; rather, serve one another humbly in love. 14 For the entire law is fulfilled in keeping this one command: “Love your neighbor as yourself.” If you bite and devour each other, watch out or you will be destroyed by each other.

“Love your neighbor as yourself” in the context of an HOA means be good to your neighbor. Tender your freedom with respect for those who live in close proximity. I have seen it to be true, that when an owner in an HOA claims “freedom” as a sword and ignores how various indulgences affects the neighbors, it leads to fights, neighborhood wars and even destruction. We can learn from the Bible if willing. Paul goes on to say, to quote the Bible once again:

“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness , and self-control. Against such things there is no law.  … Let us not become conceited, provoking and envying each other.”

 I could not say it better. Tender your own freedom with an eye toward how your actions will affect those around you. I have begun a series of E-newsletters on dysfunction in HOAs and will be covering topics related to the effect people have on those around them in the context of living in and serving on Boards of HOAs. The “dysfunction” related to the actions of people often stems from some form of self-indulgence, selfishness, and pettiness.

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