Spiraling Out Of Control-The Nightmare Party

Since I sat down to do some blogs today, I did a couple that stem from a recent vacation with my children and grandchildren. In this case, between the discussions on HOA living and parking issues (see other blog) and the outdoor games activities with my children on vacation, the swirling thoughts in my mind led to quite a nightmare.  I woke up in a sweat.


Here is the scenario:


There are 15 of us. We are staying at a timeshare vacation club somewhere. There is a big open park with a volleyball court, a pool, and a clubhouse. We start a volleyball game. Others come to join us. We have snacks and some beer and chairs and are drawing quite a crowd. Some of the crowd is filtering into the clubhouse. Everyone is having fun and it turns into a pretty good party. However, all good things must come to an end, I guess, and when the game is over the party moves into the clubhouse and there are persons there over whom I have no control acting very irrsponsibly. Being an HOA attorney I, of course, am trying to gather up my flock and go back to our units- but frustratingly to no avail.  Everyone else is having a good time. Pretty soon, along comes some person who is it either a monitor, manager, or a board director, I’m not sure. I see him approach my daughter and ask what unit she’s staying in. She answers him, of course. Then he approaches my daughter-in-law and asked her, and she looks at me. The person asks me and I tell him. He says that drinking is not allowed in the clubhouse or in the common area and that there are several people in attendance who will not identify themselves or the unit they are staying in.


He makes a call, and pretty soon there are a few other people there who clear out the clubhouse and send everyone on their way. He tells me that my family and I will be responsible for the cleanup costs and any damage. Apparently we are the only people who identified themselves. My mind starts racing, anticipating already what defenses we might have to paying cleanup and damage costs for many people we don’t know. We are the kind of people that pick up after ourselves and refrain from acting like idiots (most of the time anyway, ha ha), but from the looks of the clubhouse as we exit the premises, we may be alone in that. Of course, if I am to get a big bill, and the vacation club does have my credit card number since I am footing the bill for the vacation, I am already churning up defenses since it appears that there were many others present who didn’t give names or unit numbers. Maybe I’m a sucker in this picture I’m thinking … and then I wake up in a sweat.


Thank God it was only a dream I say to myself.


If you find yourself in in a similar situation, there are some things you might do to protect yourself. First and foremost, if a party seems to be getting out of control, you could try to diffuse the situation. But if that seems NOT to be a good idea, it would make sense to exit yourselves from the premises and remove to better location where you have some control over the situation. While it might seem to some to characterize you as a “rat”, it would also be good to contact management so they can diffuse the out of control party which apparently, it seems that someone may have done in this situation. It was just a dream, however, so some things are a bit foggy. What I remember is a bunch of blurry faces except for those of my family.

So, take heed. It’s summer, people are out for fun, and some are more responsible than others. You probably don’t want to expose yourselves to whatever mayhem may erupt from “died in the wool partygoers” that lack a sense of responsibility.


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Beth A. Grimm is an attorney who serves homeowner associations and homeowners alike. She is a frequent contributor to the Echo Journal and other similar publications in the State of California and on a national level. She provides several publications written in plain English to help people who need information about California law as it relates to homeowner and condominium associations.

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